Gianna’s Gem - Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe
/Have you ever noticed how certain people seem to effortlessly attract success, opportunity, and genuine connections? I'm here to let you in on a little secret that's transformed my life and could change yours too: Your vibe attracts your tribe. Catchy phrase, yes, but it's a fundamental truth about how we create the lives we desire.
The Positivity Bubble: Choose Your Circle Wisely
Think of your life as a garden. One of my favorite sayings is “water the flowers, not the weeds.” The people you surround yourself with are either fertilizing your growth or casting shadows that stunt it. When you deliberately choose to spend time with individuals who inspire you, challenge you positively, and lift your spirits, you create what I call a "positivity bubble."
Inside this bubble, amazing things happen:
Ideas flow more freely
Opportunities multiply
Your confidence blooms
Your energy stays consistently high
You become more resilient to life's challenges and make smart decisions
You inspire other people to smile and be more generous and positive in return
I've witnessed this transformation firsthand. When I intentionally began surrounding myself with forward-thinking, optimistic people who were pursuing their dreams with passion, and avoiding or minimizing contact with those who were “downers”, my own ambitions suddenly seemed more achievable. Their energy was contagious, and before long, I found myself accomplishing goals I'd once thought were out of reach. The same goes with the content you imbibe. I used to be an avid watcher/reader of the news and now I check in, check out as quickly as possible since it’s easy to get caught in a negativity spiral. Instead, I think about what I’d like to focus on that day and then seek out proactively the content that supports the days goal. This might be health or work-related, and sometimes it’s just plain humor. I used to think “pointless humor” didn’t have a point in my day, but it actually raises your energetic frequency, reduces cortisol and can help you relieve stress and as a result think more clearly afterwards.
The Energy Vampires: Recognizing and Minimizing Negative Influences
We all know them—the chronic complainers, the pessimists, the people who can find the cloud around every silver lining and place the blame on others rather than taking accountability. I call them "energy vampires" because even a five-minute conversation with them can leave you feeling completely drained.
One negative voice in a meeting can derail an entire team's momentum. One pessimistic team member can infect everyone's outlook. Research has shown that negativity spreads more rapidly and powerfully than positivity—which means we need to be even more intentional about protecting our energy. And I’ve learned the hard way that it’s better to nip negative energy in the bud than to let it grow (pluck the weeds, remember?)!
This doesn't mean cutting people out cruelly. Instead, some approaches I find effective include:
Setting healthy boundaries around time spent with negative individuals and take a physical break if necessary to regroup
Redirecting conversations toward solutions when they veer into complaint sessions or gossip
Being the positivity you wish to see—sometimes your example can help shift someone else's perspective
If necessary, limiting exposure to those whose negativity consistently impacts your wellbeing, or removing them from your team before they “infect” the vibe and workflow
Manage up with stakeholders who have unrealistic expectations by leading by example and sticking to what you know is right. People respect leaders with backbones rather than “yes-men/women”.
Remember: Minimizing negative influences isn't selfish—it's strategic.
Building Trust: The Professional Superpower
In the professional world, trust is currency. When people trust you, magic happens. Projects flow more smoothly, collaborations become more fruitful, and opportunities find their way to your door.
Creating trust with your team, stakeholders, and vendor partners might be the single most valuable investment you can make in your career. Trust unlocks doors you didn't even know existed. I've seen vendors go above and beyond contractual obligations, team members support each other wholeheartedly, and stakeholders approve ambitious ideas in record time—all because of the foundation of trust that was established.
How do you build this trust?
Be impeccable with your word. If you say you'll do something, do it. If circumstances change, communicate quickly.
Recognize others' expertise. Trust is a two-way street; show people you value their knowledge. It’s not important to always be right, but it is important to be honest about where you shine and where you might need other’s insights.
Be transparent about challenges and proactive with potential solutions well in advance. Hiding difficulties only creates bigger problems down the road.
Take responsibility when things go wrong. No blame games.
Celebrate wins collectively. Share credit generously.
Over-deliver time and time again. This doesn’t mean being more “busy” it means showing up consistently and in a way that unblocks the team
Brings fresh perspective to challenging situations and keep the vibe positive (meaning no gossip about other team members)
The Art of Communication in Leadership
As an event leader, the way you communicate can mean the difference between chaotic disasters and seamless successes. I've learned that how you communicate is often more important than what you communicate. Soft skills like these are not always taught in courses or when you get a certification, but can make or break a great leader.
Here's my golden rule: Choose your communication medium thoughtfully.
Some scenarios where picking up the phone is better than sending an email:
When emotions are involved
When dealing with sensitive issues
When explaining complex concepts
When brainstorming is needed
When relationships need nurturing
When quick decisions must be made
I once had a situation where weeks of back-and-forth emails about a venue contract were resolved in a single 15-minute phone call. What was missing in those emails? The human connection, the ability to ask clarifying questions in real-time, and the warmth of actual voices sharing a common goal. I asked the hotel what they needed, I asked the client what they needed, and we settled on a middle ground where the most important clause was agreed to for the client and the hotel was able to hit their revenue targets by increasing our food/beverage spend while removing the meeting rental fees.
For event professionals, mastering the art of choosing the right communication channel at the right time isn't just efficient—it's transformative.
The Undervalued Power of Appreciation
In our fast-paced professional world, appreciation has become a forgotten art. We're quick to point out what went wrong but often neglect to celebrate what went right. This is such a missed opportunity!
A handwritten thank-you note to a vendor who went above and beyond. A letter of appreciation to someone's boss highlighting their exceptional work. A public acknowledgment of a team member's contribution during a meeting. I do all three of these regularly, probably more often than needed, but it is an important skill that makes a major impact.
Speaking of keeping the positivity bubble, I have a ritual for making Mondays more palatable with my family - we each have a hand carved wooden box with our names and we do “Monday Mail” after dinner on Mondays. It serves two purposes:
In preparing a thoughtful note (or finding another thoughtful token) for each family member, it helps us with gratitude, which combats the stress at the start of a busy week.
It raises the “vibe” and gives us something to look forward to on Mondays after a long day.
Similarly, I always prepare handwritten thankyou notes for my team to distribute the night before an event along with a thoughtful amenity if we’re staying at a hotel in addition to the post-event thank yous I send. Why? Because it sets the tone in advance for a positive week!
These simple acts have disproportionate power. They don't just make the recipient feel good—they strengthen bonds, build loyalty, and create a culture where people want to bring their best selves.
Putting It All Together
Your vibe truly does attract your tribe, both personally and professionally. The energy you put out into the world comes back to you multiplied.
By intentionally building your positivity bubble, minimizing negative influences, fostering trust, communicating thoughtfully, and expressing genuine appreciation, you create an environment where success becomes almost inevitable. In a world where technology often separates us, the human connection remains our most precious resource. Invest in it wisely.
This isn't just feel-good advice—it's practical wisdom that transforms careers and lives.
So I'll leave you with this question: What one relationship-building action could you take today that might improve your positivity bubble?
XX,
Gianna
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Event Recap: I’m thrilled that my last newsletter was appreciated by folks and featured in an Expert Opinion article by Corporate Event News. I had both the company who developed the app and one of the sponsors I called our email me directly to thank me for the appreciation (very on-theme for this week’s newsletter) and I was glad that people found the observations interesting. If you have any additional thoughts or questions about Google Next, feel free to reach out or read last week’s Gianna’s Gems if you missed it.