Time Stress: The Hidden Cost of Modern Life and How to Break Free

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Time Stress: The Hidden Cost of Modern Life and How to Break Free

Every morning as I sip my coffee and review my calendar reminders (my version of a to-do list), I'm reminded of a universal truth: we all have the same 24 hours in a day, yet somehow it never feels like enough. This phenomenon, which I call "Time Stress," has become the silent epidemic of our generation, affecting everyone from busy professionals to dedicated parents and especially those planning significant life events.


When I hit 40, I suddenly had an awakening that I has a desperate aversion to wasted time, be it in pointless meetings, waiting in lines, grocery shopping inefficiently, you name it, and this is what finally kicked me into full speed ahead mode with departing the corporate world and launching my own business. I am now producing about 5X as much and with zero time wasted each day, or at least close to zero time wasted.


I was recently having a conversation about this awakening with a friend of mind in a similar conundrum which is why for this week’s Gianna’s Gems, I wanted to bring it to light and include strategies for dealing with it, whether you’re in events or just human.


Understanding Time Stress

Time Stress isn't just about being busy – it's that constant, nagging feeling that you're always behind, always racing against the clock, and never quite catching up. It's the weight on your shoulders when you look at your to-do list and the anxiety that bubbles up when another commitment gets added to your plate.

I see this particularly intensely in my event planning work, and because I’m always looking twenty steps ahead, I tend to have a harder time being “in the moment” because I’ve trained myself to always be contingency planning. But here's the truth: Time Stress isn't inevitable. It's a pattern we've fallen into, and like any pattern, it can be broken.

The Real Cost of Time Stress

Before I dive into solutions, let's break down what Time Stress is actually costing us:

  1. Mental Health Impact: The constant state of rush and overwhelm triggers our fight or flight stress response, leading to anxiety, decreased sleep quality, and emotional exhaustion and burnout.

  2. Relationship Strain: When we're time-stressed, we're less present with loved ones, more irritable, and more likely to miss important moments.

  3. Decision Fatigue Time Stress: clouds our judgment, leading to poor choices and a tendency to procrastinate or rush important decisions.

  4. Financial Consequences: Rushed decisions often lead to overspending, while the physical and mental toll can impact work performance and earning potential.


Breaking Free: A New Approach to Time

Here's where I'm going to share something that might feel uncomfortable at first: Sometimes, the most valuable way to spend your money is on buying back your time. This isn't about being wasteful – it's about being wise with your most precious resource.

Strategy 1: The Power of Strategic Outsourcing

Think about your typical week. How many hours do you spend on tasks that:

  • Don't bring you joy

  • Could be done by someone else

  • Take you away from higher-value activities

Now, consider the revolutionary concept of viewing your time as an investment portfolio. Just as you wouldn't waste a valuable investment on low-return activities, why waste your precious time on tasks that could be delegated?


Example 1: A few years ago, I realized I was always under water during December with end of year planning, holidays, and hosting events. I realized that gift-wrapping zillions of gifts and sticking stuffers was no longer joyful - it felt like time ticking away. So I hired someone to wrap my gifts! Now, I still have the joy of finding and purchasing all the gifts, writing the heart-felt cards, but know that I’m saving about ten hours on wrapping which I can spend on other things (like hiding Elf on the shelf for Jack). As a bonus, I’ve become friends with the fellow Mom gift-wrapper and she even introduced me to her daughter as a babysitter for Jack - talk about a winning strategy!


Example 2: I’ve been known to hire professional photographers (or ask my Dad!) and dishwashers to help when I host big events at my home or for others. It takes the stress of the clean-up and I can mingle with my guests and be 100% present while knowing the special moments are being captured by someone.

Strategy 2: Building Your Time-Saving Dream Team

Here are some examples of how to build a support system (and by no means exhaustive):

  1. Personal Life Support

  • House cleaning service (3-4 hours gained weekly)

  • Meal prep or delivery service (5-7 hours gained weekly)

  • Virtual assistant for administrative tasks (2-3 hours gained weekly)

  • Laundry service (2-3 hours gained weekly)

  • Carpool (4-6 hours gained weekly)

  1. Professional Support

  • Bookkeeper for financial organization

  • Social media manager for online presence

  • Research assistant for project preparation

  • Technical support for computer and software issues

  1. Event Planning Support

  • Professional planner for overall coordination

  • Day-of coordinator for execution and advancing venues and greeting guests

  • Specialty vendors for specific elements like photography

  • Catering team

  • Creative team to help with everything from invite design to menus, favors and signage

The Money vs. Time Equation

Let's talk numbers. Yes, hiring help costs money. But consider this equation:

Your Hourly Value × Hours Saved = True Cost Benefit

If your work generates $100/hour and you spend 5 hours weekly on cleaning, paying $100 for a cleaning service actually nets you a $400 profit in potential earnings – not to mention the mental energy saved. Plus, you may have a creative idea with that mental space that propels your career forward exponentially!

Strategy 3: Time Management Techniques That Actually Work

Even with support, you need solid time management practices:

  1. Time Blocking with Buffer Zones: Schedule your day in focused blocks, but always include 15-30 minute buffers between activities. These aren't breaks – they're reality cushions for life's inevitable surprises, or self-regulating techniques like meditation which can replenish your “adaptation energy” so you don’t burnout or lose it on your poor spouse or dog.

  2. The 2/2/2 Rule: Give yourself a perspective check-in by seeing your life in landscape mode:

  • What will matter in 2 days?

  • What will matter in 2 months?

  • What will matter in 2 years? 

  • Use these questions to prioritize your time and energy.

  1. Energy Management: Track your energy levels throughout the day and schedule high-priority tasks during your peak hours. Save administrative or simpler tasks for low-energy periods.

Making the Mindset Shift

The hardest part about managing Time Stress isn't implementing these strategies – it's giving yourself permission to use them. Here's your permission slip:

  • You don't have to do it all 

  • Asking for help is a sign of wisdom, not weakness

  • Your time has real, quantifiable value

  • Investment in time-saving support is an investment in your wellbeing and a better life

Your Action Plan for Time Freedom

  1. Audit Your Time -  Track everything you do for one week. Be honest and detailed.

  2. Calculate Your Hourly Value - Not just your work rate – include the value of your peace of mind and personal time.

  3. Identify Your First Delegation - Choose one task to outsource this week. Start small if you need to build confidence.

  4. Build Your Support System - Research and interview potential service providers. Remember, you're building a long-term relationship.

  5. Monitor and Adjust - Keep track of your time savings and stress levels. Adjust your support system as needed.

The Ultimate Investment

Remember this: every minute you spend stressed about time is a minute you're not fully living. Every hour spent on tasks that don't align with your highest value is an hour you can't invest in what truly matters.

Your time is your most valuable asset. Protect it fiercely. Invest in it wisely. And most importantly, give yourself permission to create a life where Time Stress is the exception, not the rule.


Happy first week of 2025 everyone!


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